He arranged the entire festive event aboard the Spirit of Washington cruise ship.As the party sailed gently down the Potomac River and she danced the night away in his arms, everyone marveled at what a wonderful husband Fred was.I used to wonder what the big deal was with Christians at least dating non-Christians – I mean what’s the harm?This assumes that the Bible’s warning about doing this is really nothing to take that seriously. This should be very interesting to most Christians, as it appears that the french word for ‘single‘ appears to be our english equivalent word for ‘celibate’ if I’m not mistaken.Call me old fashioned but even the liberal – french seem to have once seen a ‘single’ person clearly as someone that did not only not have have a partner – but it’s greater meaning was someone who had no physical intimacey with the opposite sex.However, just a few years ago, life for Audrey was very different.
For instance, I have one gentleman who is interested but seems too focused on what he calls "chemistry." I am confused to say the least. With the hectic and often scattered lives many of us lead, online dating is a way to explore larger circles and discover those we would never otherwise meet.
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later).
Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don’t be a freakish weirdo. It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion? If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Establishing principles for Christian dating will set men and women on a course towards Christ-centered marriages. Here are 10 important principles for Christian dating. That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despites difficulties and differences. I fear this mentality in the dating culture is actually promoting divorce. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience.
The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip.